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  1. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    OK, one last thing before I turn in for the night If we lived in a world where there were no gender roles or pressure put on men or women to act or dress a certain way, would you mind then if people thought of you as a guy? Or would you still be trans*?
  2. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    I understand radfems blame patriarchy as the root cause of oppression, but literally everything I've ever read by them relies on biological essentialism to some degree (as in, women face sex based oppression), which you're heavily against. Just curious, do you know of any radfem orientated blogs...
  3. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    I'm really confused by this...? Absolutely everything I've read by radfems goes against everything you've ever said, even the ones who aren't anti-trans. And it was on a venomously anti-trans site called femonade, so yeah. Look it up and you'll see what I mean
  4. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    Yes, which is why people need to stop blogging graphics like this without stopping to think of the implications. (I mean, what are "Eunuchs" doing there and does anyone even use that term anymore...?) Incidentally, I had the misfortune to find this image being discussed on a radical feminist...
  5. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    OK look, I'm not talking about genderqueers or non-binaries anywhere in my posts. There's a reason I'm saying trans and not trans*. I don't interact with the genderqueer community. What they do isn't any concern of mine. It's making me uncomfortable because people are basing her transness...
  6. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    I'm asking because this is where you supposed to debate and generate discussion? And again, my posts are only saying that being trans shouldn't be related to your adherence to gender roles, which I figured was a common train of thought here because gender roles are restrictive nonsense. It's...
  7. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    What post is setting people off? What is wrong with those posts? I'm literally saying that being a masculine woman or feminine man doesn't mean that you're trans. Why is this bad? Too many people think that trans people transition because they defy gender norms, which sucks. I did not...
  8. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    If you're seriously going to add me to your ignore list because we have differing opinions, then feel free. I don't know you well or interact with you anyway, so no loss. And nowhere in the thread have I implied I don't believe people like you exist. I have no idea why people interpreted my...
  9. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    Maybe you should have posted that part in response to a more relevant quote of Jolty's. It just looks like you responded to the wrong thing there. (to me at least) Eh, whatever then.
  10. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    The part of Jolty's post you quoted didn't mention gender at all. It said that penises are male and vaginas are female, referring to physical sex. Your response really wasn't related. EDIT- ALso ugh, why do I keep getting you mixed up with augmented second. The fact that one of you is invisible...
  11. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    But genitals have nothing to do with gender, they're your physical sex... so what. I'm sure the majority of people here agree that gender roles are bullshit. Urgh, reading that was kinda painful to be honest... but I'm glad you changed your mind. A woman shouldn't feel like being interested in...
  12. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    But this attitude is actively encouraging people who defy gender norms to identify as trans. Which in turn, gives the impression that trans people enforce gender norms rather than breaking them down.
  13. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    I'm talking about issues in the trans community itself, not the world at large. If you're a masculine woman or a feminine man, then you're automatically regarded as a "queer" or trans, which I think is wrong. Basically what Jolty said about the therapists. One clinic ended up getting sued due...
  14. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    OK, glad we agree on that. That makes things clearer. OK, wow no, that is not in any way a good comparison. And yes, I would consider it extremely important to consider them. A lot of these ex-trans people spoke about pressure to transition because they defied gender norms. I honestly had the...
  15. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    Oh OK, it's just I tend to write like that myself when I'm upset, so yeah. It read like stream of consciousness or something. I'll acknowledge the medical community has been fucked up in the past, but I feel like things have moved forward a lot (there are still problems I'm aware), and the...
  16. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    Cirrus, I have to be brutally honest here: that post was very rambling and incoherent and just made me more confused than ever. I'm presuming that's because you're upset. I'm interested in your point of view here, but I just... seriously can't make head or tails of that post. A lot of trans...
  17. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    I don't understand what you're trying to imply here. There is no connection between being trans and otherkin. Also, that sounds like it's more related to ableism? I mean, if someone hears about this person going around saying they're a cat or a fairy or something, then they automatically think...
  18. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    I understand the whole "I'm not going to treat you like a champion just because you're not being an oppressive ass" mindset. But I don't see the point of being unnecessarily hostile and snarky to someone who is generally being respectful and calm to you. It just seems immature. I mean, I've seen...
  19. Byrus

    Is it necessary for a trans* person to transition?

    Don't want to get too deep into this discussion because I have little doubt it'll cause me more stress than I can be bothered with, but I'm curious: What would be your response if a trans person asked the same question then? (the hair comparison question I mean) Also, she was being very...
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